Some important facts you should know before getting into a relationship, taken from Jerry Seinfeld's book 'Seinlanguage'
Dating, what is it really?:
Dating is pressure and tension. What is a date really, but a job interview that lasts all night?
Spending the night at somebody else's house:
It could happen. It's happened to a lot of people. You always think to yourself, 'I can handle this. It's no big deal.'
But your hair the next morning is the true reflection of how you really feel inside. Your hair freaks out when it wakes up at somebody else's house. You go in the bathroom, it's like
'This is not our sink, this is not our brush, this is not our mirror--AAHHH!!'
The basic conflict between men and women sexually:
Men are like firemen. To them, sex is an emergency, and no matter what they're doing, they can be ready in two minutes.
Women, on the other hand, are like fire. They're very exciting, but the conditions have to be exactly right for it to occur.
The relationship's owner's manual:
Each man and each woman actually does have an owner's manual. Nothing's written down anywhere, but the directions for operation of an individual in a relationship are detailed and specific nonetheless.
So when you start out with someone, you're essentially driving a strange car for the first time and none of the controls are labeled. The wipers come on at strange times, sometimes you stall. On top of that, we've met people with bad steering, no brakes, needs a muffler, headlights a little dim, too much in the trunk, not enough under the hood, prone to backfiring, won't turn over, and just plain out of gas.
After reading Catherine's post about where she was two years ago, I started myself thinking about how much things have changed in the past two years.
Two years ago was the worst chapter of my life so far. Two years ago is the reason why I was inspired to start this blog with Catherine a couple months ago, it is the reason why I hated men so badly. I was recovering from the relationship that left me so wounded. This may sound tragic and extremely serious, it sort of is. But fear not, the chapter is closed.
So okay, enough suspense. Three years ago, I started dating this guy. Let's name him Mr.X, even though we should call him the Devil. So yes, we started dating, and in the beginning it was very unofficial, foggy and sneaky. ( if you're wondering why, it is because I dated one of Mr.X's best friends before, so he was sort of breaking the BroCode: you don't date your friend's ex.) So after a couple months, I decided to stop with all the bullshit and ask him straight up to either admit we were exclusive or let me go. Being the great catch that I am, Mr.X obviously decided to call me his girlfriend.
The relationship lasted about two years, but the last year was pure torture. I will not go into details about how bad, abusive and poisonous the relationship was, but what I will say is that I should've never commited to this person. I guess the wise thing to say here is that you learn from your mistakes and that you have to take risks to realize what you want and what you deserve, but to be honest, this was one lesson I didn't have to learn. It was not essential to my life, and it wasn't something I had to go trough to become a better person.
So lately I've started dating this guy (yes I know, SHOCKER!!!!) and sex has been on our minds.
So I definately want your advice, dear men haters, on when is the best time to have sex with a guy you just started to date.
A) 3rd date rule!
B) A month- that seems about right.
C) When you feel comfortable
D) First date- you want to know what's up... and what's not.
So ladies, please give me your opinion! This is crucial :)
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