How to get a girl according to the movies
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Men haters giving advice
Posted by CB , Wednesday, August 10, 2011 12:40 a.m.
Hello ladies! We got an email from a reader asking us if we give advice, YOU BET WE DO! In the spirit of trying to help you ladies out, we're going to post (anonymously of course) our questions and advice on the blog, from both me and K to any questions we get. Here is our first!
do you do advice? i need some.
i've been on and off with a guy for six years. we're currently seeing each other but have decided not to date (officially, i think this is our 4th go at it.) he's decided to go away for school this fall somewhere that's really hot and populated, and i'm going somewhere that's cold and populated, and they're super far away from eachother. needless to say, there will be lots of girls for him and lots of guys for me in these particular cities. he talks like he wants to marry me eventually though, no matter what happens. (we've had a year to two-year breaks in between our dating (some of that time i was away at uni) but we just seem to keep coming back together.) but he brought up the other day that he never wants to talk about us having sex with other people (he kept bringing up the fact that hes going to party his face off down there so i kept bringing up the fact that he'll have easy bimbos all over him) and some other stuff he said made me get the impression that he's going there basically thinking he's going to be banging all these other girls - but in the end, he wants to come back and marry me?
and i quote, "at the end of the day, or i guess i should say the next morning, i'm still going to love you"
WHAT THE FUCK...should someone that "loves" you, and for this long, be planning on fucking around just because they can or before their tied down? (not that i'm going to be tying him down...hell no. i just cant let go of him and i know i won't be able to let go of him (which i've tried many times) until i find someone that i have equivalent feelings for...but i'm not going to find him here and there's two months left of summer...what should i do?
From Kimberly:Wow, that's a toughy!
There's is no easy answer because this is no easy situation.
I have to admit that I've sort of been there with an ex, and it didn't end very well. After two years of dating, we broke up, and then we were on and off for about 8 months. It was hell. I HATED not knowing what was going on, if he was serious about me or just keeping around to avoid loneliness.
This is where I can understand what you're going through, because I had to make the same choice. And here is the best advice I can give you.You really need to sit down, and ask yourself if it's worth it. I mean this guy is giving me the impression that he is taking you for granted,and keeping you as a backup. Is this guy really worth feeling like a plan B? Honestly, if he CARES so much about you and is talking about marriage,why would he put you through this? What's the point of jeopardizing your relationship right now if he wants to be with you in the end? It just doesn't add up. Could he have some commitment issues? Maybe you should explore that possibility.
I know this may sound cheesy, but you really need to figure out what y-o-u want. If you decide that this guy is The One and you don't care how much time it takes or how much it hurts,
then it's your choice and you should embrace it. But if you decide to not put up with it anymore, then you should definately say something! One thing is for sure, you can't sit around and wait for him to figure out what he wants. It's a two way street! I'm strongly encouraging you to have a heart-to-heart with him,tell him what's on your mind, and try to get some answers. If I've learned anything, it's that a man will never just give you what you want, you have to be strong enough to ask. So if you want him to NOT fuck around and really be in this relationship with you, then ask. It's the only way to more forward with -or without- him. Because in the end, we're all trying to find our own happiness and you just have to figure out what with help you get on that path. Think longterm!
There's is no easy answer because this is no easy situation.
I have to admit that I've sort of been there with an ex, and it didn't end very well. After two years of dating, we broke up, and then we were on and off for about 8 months. It was hell. I HATED not knowing what was going on, if he was serious about me or just keeping around to avoid loneliness.
This is where I can understand what you're going through, because I had to make the same choice. And here is the best advice I can give you.You really need to sit down, and ask yourself if it's worth it. I mean this guy is giving me the impression that he is taking you for granted,and keeping you as a backup. Is this guy really worth feeling like a plan B? Honestly, if he CARES so much about you and is talking about marriage,why would he put you through this? What's the point of jeopardizing your relationship right now if he wants to be with you in the end? It just doesn't add up. Could he have some commitment issues? Maybe you should explore that possibility.
I know this may sound cheesy, but you really need to figure out what y-o-u want. If you decide that this guy is The One and you don't care how much time it takes or how much it hurts,
then it's your choice and you should embrace it. But if you decide to not put up with it anymore, then you should definately say something! One thing is for sure, you can't sit around and wait for him to figure out what he wants. It's a two way street! I'm strongly encouraging you to have a heart-to-heart with him,tell him what's on your mind, and try to get some answers. If I've learned anything, it's that a man will never just give you what you want, you have to be strong enough to ask. So if you want him to NOT fuck around and really be in this relationship with you, then ask. It's the only way to more forward with -or without- him. Because in the end, we're all trying to find our own happiness and you just have to figure out what with help you get on that path. Think longterm!
Wish you the best!xoxo-K
Honey, I have to give you tough love on this one: even if he might not intentionally be doing it, he is using you! He's keeping you as his backup girl and while he may love you, you should never put yourself in second place!
I think you should tell him that you hate feeling second place to a bunch of bimbos and tell him that you guys are definitely off for a while. It sounds to me from what I know that you are both in different places right now in your lives and not ready to fully commit.
You don't have to completely 'let go of him' but take a break for a while, meet other guys, live your seperate lives and if after a while you both are ready to commit and really be together, then you'll know it's worth it.
It's like when you try on a shirt you like but aren't sure about it, if you leave the store and are still thinking about it later, then you know you should buy it!
You don't have to completely 'let go of him' but take a break for a while, meet other guys, live your seperate lives and if after a while you both are ready to commit and really be together, then you'll know it's worth it.
It's like when you try on a shirt you like but aren't sure about it, if you leave the store and are still thinking about it later, then you know you should buy it!
Reader story: Of course it happened drunk at a bar.
Posted by CB , Friday, August 5, 2011 1:00 p.m.
Many thanks to my friend from across the country who submitted this story about inappropriate and aggravating men behavior. It happens everywhere folks! Enjoy ;)
'He was the ass I regretted not sleeping with. Of course it happened drunk at a bar, we were both dancing and stuff, ya know the usual at a bar. Last call came so we went outside, hung out, made out, wandering hands (the usual) then of course it's come home with me blah blah blah. I said no not tonight give me your number and we'll talk next week. So he did. The next week I text him, chit chat, didn't see him. So he's talking to my friend one day and he's like how the hell did your friend get my number?
Ended up calling me a slut, and said I can't believe she would do that to 'Jason' (my previous fuckbuddy) they're together blah blah blah. My friend told him we're not together.
So I got called a slut because he asked me to go home with him.
I was so pissed then a couple weeks later (I don't remember this) we got into a heated argument at a bar about the situation, but I do remember he was saying slut is a compliment. I was like WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?!?!!
Also, I don't like the fact that I wear glasses, I do because I have to. DON'T USE IT AS YOUR PICK UP LINE. Sorry had to get that out. :) It's happened more than once!'
Bitchy friends with boyfriends.
Posted by CB , Saturday, July 23, 2011 4:07 p.m.
So I had an interesting conversation today with an old friend of mine.
You know those friends who stayed in their hometown, with their high school sweetheart and who love to unintentionally (or intentionally) rub it in your face?
You know who I'm talking about. And if you're reading this, I hope you know who you are and stop doing this to your girlfriends right fucking now.
There is nothing wrong with being single and having some guy friends you occasionally hook up with/go to for some much needed attention!
But there is nothing worse than being told 'i guess bf's dont work for everyone' or 'oh dear haha. you have one of those?'
Everyone needs a 'transition' man. One of those guys that won't be your serious boyfriend but who likes being with you just to have fun. Hey, I'm not going to be the one to turn down a good looking guy who wants to give me a massage and tell me I'm the hottest thing he's ever seen ;)
So single ladies, EMBRACE YOUR SINGLENESS and don't you let some biatch with a boyfriend make you think that it's better. He might be cheating on her and she doesn't even know it.
Relationships and technology.
Posted by CB , Wednesday, July 20, 2011 2:33 p.m.
According to my parents and other older people, relationships have changed alot in the past generation. Texting and Facebook have become deciding factors on love. Relationship statuses, interested in, a certain someone posting more than normal on your Wall.... All those things can add up to rumors and beliefs that love is around!
Maybe I was born in the wrong time but this feels off for me.
Those who know me know that I text. ALOT. Maybe it's time for that to change.
Ladies, you all have received those 'Hey :) ' texts from a boy.
Or those late night texts from a boy with a girlfriend who only texts you when she's not around.....
Or the 'What's up?' leading you to think that maybe he wants to see you, maybe he missed you.
Honestly, I don't think that men think that way at all when texting.
So I'm going to try this new thing where I don't base my relationships on Facebook or texting, maybe see how it goes...
I leave you with a song by men that I love:
Everlasting Light by the Black Keys
European men: The verdict.
Posted by KB , Monday, July 11, 2011 1:41 p.m.
Amsterdam
When I got back from my two week trip in Europe, one of the first things I said to the girls about the men in Amsterdam is that I gained 10 pounds because there was so much EYE CANDY. Holy shit. I swear to God, everywhere I looked I saw gorgeous men. And if you think that my standards are low, well they’re NOT. So here is what I noticed most about Dutch men:
•Tall. VERY TALL.
•Gorgeous facial features. I don’t know how they do it, but almost everything about their faces looks good. And the hair... most of the men had medium-long hair. Nothing dirty or grungy. It was kind of Italian looking actually. Sort of pushed back, a bit wavy and just so sexy.
•Fashionistas, in a non-metrosexual/homosexual way. The men over there know how to dress, and man do they look good.
•Okay so if you don’t know anything about Amsterdam, let me tell you that over there, 98% of the means of transportation are bicycles. You won’t see parking lots for cars, but you guessed it, parking lots for BIKES. So all of this to tell you that if you use your bicycle on a daily basis, you WILL have a killer body. Oh Jesus, the bodies....
•Sexy foreign accents. I don’t know what it is about accents, but they’re hot. And they will make you wanna take him home. BEWARE OF ACCENTS.
•THEY LOVE CANADIANS!!! Since we were the ones to free Amsterdam in the Second World War, they just love us. And want to give us free drinks. Uh-oh!
•Their culture. Men over there are so laid back and chill. All they wanna do is ride their bikes and drink a good cold Heineken. Amen to that!
•Class. They have class. First of all, I did not see any guidos whatsoever. Guys over there do not focus on having the biggest biceps ever, or wearing the tightest shirts ever. Second, even though marijuana is legal over there and drinking is a part of their daily routines, they’re never wasted and making a fool of themselves on the streets.
Belgium
Okay so this was... interesting. During my stay in Belgium, I lived in an Arab neighbourhood. So you can imagine what I went through. Men harassing you from every corner, winking at you, blowing you kisses. Yes very disturbing I know. I don’t have anything whatsoever against Arab men, but some of them went as far as grabbing my arm, telling me that they love me, and one guy said to me “Princess, you color my life.” Wow, I felt like a piece of steak and all of these dogs were fighting over the meat. It was not a good feeling and it kind of turned me off all Belgian men.
Luxembourg
I was only there for two days, and spent most of my time sightseeing! I didn’t have a lot of time to check out the men over there, but from what I saw, they seemed... normal. A balanced mixture of hot and ugly boys. Every guy I met though kept saying that I had a “cute” ac cent. That’s pretty much the only action I got over there.
Overall, I have to say that I MUCH prefer European men. They look WAY better, they act better, and let’s face it, they have that sexy accent. They’re exotic, and I like exotic things. I have to admit that I was quite dissapointed to come back to our short, wannabe guido and sloppy men. So my advice is that we all pack our bags and head to Europe. Afterall, it is the most beautiful and romantic place to be. If we don’t find suitable men and all else fails, we can always become classy strippers in the Red Light District.
Is that an accent? Excuse me while I undress.
When I got back from my two week trip in Europe, one of the first things I said to the girls about the men in Amsterdam is that I gained 10 pounds because there was so much EYE CANDY. Holy shit. I swear to God, everywhere I looked I saw gorgeous men. And if you think that my standards are low, well they’re NOT. So here is what I noticed most about Dutch men:
•Tall. VERY TALL.
•Gorgeous facial features. I don’t know how they do it, but almost everything about their faces looks good. And the hair... most of the men had medium-long hair. Nothing dirty or grungy. It was kind of Italian looking actually. Sort of pushed back, a bit wavy and just so sexy.
•Fashionistas, in a non-metrosexual/homosexual way. The men over there know how to dress, and man do they look good.
•Okay so if you don’t know anything about Amsterdam, let me tell you that over there, 98% of the means of transportation are bicycles. You won’t see parking lots for cars, but you guessed it, parking lots for BIKES. So all of this to tell you that if you use your bicycle on a daily basis, you WILL have a killer body. Oh Jesus, the bodies....
•Sexy foreign accents. I don’t know what it is about accents, but they’re hot. And they will make you wanna take him home. BEWARE OF ACCENTS.
•THEY LOVE CANADIANS!!! Since we were the ones to free Amsterdam in the Second World War, they just love us. And want to give us free drinks. Uh-oh!
•Their culture. Men over there are so laid back and chill. All they wanna do is ride their bikes and drink a good cold Heineken. Amen to that!
•Class. They have class. First of all, I did not see any guidos whatsoever. Guys over there do not focus on having the biggest biceps ever, or wearing the tightest shirts ever. Second, even though marijuana is legal over there and drinking is a part of their daily routines, they’re never wasted and making a fool of themselves on the streets.
Belgium
Okay so this was... interesting. During my stay in Belgium, I lived in an Arab neighbourhood. So you can imagine what I went through. Men harassing you from every corner, winking at you, blowing you kisses. Yes very disturbing I know. I don’t have anything whatsoever against Arab men, but some of them went as far as grabbing my arm, telling me that they love me, and one guy said to me “Princess, you color my life.” Wow, I felt like a piece of steak and all of these dogs were fighting over the meat. It was not a good feeling and it kind of turned me off all Belgian men.
Luxembourg
I was only there for two days, and spent most of my time sightseeing! I didn’t have a lot of time to check out the men over there, but from what I saw, they seemed... normal. A balanced mixture of hot and ugly boys. Every guy I met though kept saying that I had a “cute” ac cent. That’s pretty much the only action I got over there.
Overall, I have to say that I MUCH prefer European men. They look WAY better, they act better, and let’s face it, they have that sexy accent. They’re exotic, and I like exotic things. I have to admit that I was quite dissapointed to come back to our short, wannabe guido and sloppy men. So my advice is that we all pack our bags and head to Europe. Afterall, it is the most beautiful and romantic place to be. If we don’t find suitable men and all else fails, we can always become classy strippers in the Red Light District.
Is that an accent? Excuse me while I undress.
KIMMY COMES BACK TOMORROW! :)
Posted by CB , Saturday, July 2, 2011 1:16 a.m.
Yay! Excited!
That is all. :)
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