4 Response to "Sex dilemma!"
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Wellllll, I think that the 1 month rule is definitely the best, although hard to follow sometimes, (hormones you know). But, the 1 month rule should also be the same as 'when you feel comfortable', if you're not comfortable after one month, it's not a good sign either.
It's a tough question and always a potential 'after this he won't call me back' risk.
But sometimes the risk is worth waiting for :) - August 27, 2011 at 11:36 a.m.
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i read that 9 months was the rule?
From the what i've read in the book "Act like a lady, think like a man"... And i'm so not a person of self-help book bullshit. But i saw it and thought "what the heck"... at that point in time i had guy troubles just like all of you. And I read it and he reveals pretty good points that i never would of thought of. Some kinda far fetched.. but some where it really made me think. And he says that 9 months is the time to wait? Sounds kind of long to me. But i mean whatevs.
...and sorry if like my whole comment sounds so infomercial ( i just re-read what i wrote.. ouf!!! ) but anyways, it's a good read! Look it up girls! :) - August 29, 2011 at 12:02 a.m.
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well seeing that you're dating him i'd say that we can eliminate the first date choice.. which as mentionned previously, (to which i completely agree), is a VERY horrific decision if you want something lasting... after all how doesn't want to take a chance at love. Even though most men are insensitive, and generally bad life choices, we can still hold out hope that there's one good one out there. So my vote is 3 weeks-a month since it allows time to see if he's worth keeping. If you decide he's not, i'd say sleep with him for the fun of it and ditch him while blaming your decision on the sex. Say that he's a good guy so that for the next girl he plays that up. As well, he'll think he sucks at sex which will make him (hopefully!) focus on pleasuring his lady. Overall this permits a better situation of all us gals, while leaving you free to an amazing man.
(Taking into account that one exists)
All the best! - September 8, 2011 at 2:42 a.m.
-SORRY FOR THE MESS IN MY FIRST POST THIS ONE SHOULD BE BETTER- ( Can Cath or Kim delete the first one )
ok, talking from experience i would have to go
somewhere between the 3rd date rule and a month.....
i think with a little drink and flirting everybody
feels comfortable and that makes the option C) a
very poor decision :P
i am the real life example that making out or have
complete sex with a guy the first night is NOT
rewarding. In fact the inner male in him ( also
known as the '' penis chain reaction messages that
makes is brain switch off and act like a hairy
gorilla attracting a female to copulate in the
bushes'' ) will probably be seeing you as a girl
he may consider wanting to fuck one more time but
not a potential girlfriend. As a matter of fact he
even may ( 99.999999% of the time on my records)
block and delete you from everyplace possible the
next morning even if he liked you.
to conclude, wait after the 3rd date, go with your
gusts and let the temptation last as long as you
want. Then he'll be listening to you like a dog
well trained :P
wish you luck